Posted by : Mary Chege
On Receiving Compliments with Grace
Last week, a very very wise old man told me to stop saying "I think I am good at..." and simply say " I am great at...". Their feedback was interesting.
Today, after a nerve wracking client win, I reflected on last week's conversation and I am taken back to the fact that when we willingly accept compliments, we are reminded that others see us through different eyes. Thanks to a few sleepless nights, I had really wanted a more senior resource at today's meeting. Again, only female - and only one of two people of colour in an all male board room- I was shivering and shaking at the start of the 3-hour session. Very intimidating to say the least!
Many of us find it difficult to accept compliments but find it very easy to believe the slightest criticism. In fact, if you are like Emsi, you will even find reasons why the compliments are not true - complete with expressing shock and disbelief at the compliments and silently wondering if you are a hoax in disguise waiting to be unveiled as such!
So, today, right now, I invite you to make a choice to fully accept compliments as we would a gift. At least I intend to. Sincere compliments are gifts of praise. They are kudos given for wise choices (never mind if you think they are wise or not) or accomplishments or perhaps for just letting your light shine. There is no reason not to accept the gift of a kind word.
Give criticism kindly, and accept compliments graciously.